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When it comes to relationships, are you more like a pit bull or a cat?
Did you know that after you have smelled the same scent for a period of time, you stop smelling it? Which leads me to think… if that happens with the sense of smell does that happen with all of our senses? When we have seen the same person for a period of time, do we stop really seeing them? When we touch them or are touched by them do we eventually stop feeling them? I search my heart to think of how in every relationship of my past, this has eventually been my destiny. Then I look at all of the relationships around me and see this same epidemic….
How have I not noticed this before? I have certainly known that all relationships eventually meet this fate. And in my acknowledgement of this I will admit it has made me a bit down hearted at the fact that “love” in that sense, doesn’t last for long.
But then I take a look at patterns in my relationships of the past. Is there anything I have done repetitively in all of them that has somehow helped create this result? What is the common thread running through my past lovers to me?
Then it hit me…. And I asked myself this simple question…
Amy, are you more like a pit bull or a cat? In my past relationships, I would have to shamefully admit I have very much resembled that of a pit bull. Bear with me. I know you are wondering what the hell I am getting at here.
What is a pit bull renowned for? Aggression, you might say. Well, yes. How about the fact that once they clamp on and you are in the grasp of those jaws they don’t let go. Viola! There is my common thread. I have the tenacity of a pit bull and I, in my past relationships had not practiced the beautiful art of letting go. Once I got that juicy taste of my lover that made my mouth salivate and every cell in my body crave I had to have it all the time. Why come up for air? Why be apart? It is burning the candle at both ends which if you haven’t figured out yet, gets you to the end in half the time….
So if I, and I am not the only woman out there who has had this tendency, is not giving any space between the smells, tastes, sights, sounds and caresses, isn’t that my answer as to why all the sudden I wake up in a relationship and I find “it” has vanished. The sensations dulled?
Now, after much introspection and self honesty, I am proud to say I have morphed into my feline side… something that feels much more natural, much healthier and much more satisfying.
A cat, she doesn’t mind if you are there. Doesn’t mind when you leave. Never looks at you with those puppy eye’s of guilt that say, “How can you be leaving me? Again……” A cat comes and gives affection and gets affection when it feels to. Other than that, she takes care of herself and feels totally content in doing so.
There is an epidemic of mass proportions (awfully dramatic I know) in relationships across the world that people are losing their senses with their partners. They don’t feel, see or hear them anymore.
So I pose this simple question to you today. Are you more like a pit bull or a cat with your lover? Space is the breath that relationships thrive on. Instead of thinking “Let it be” today, think “Let it breathe” and you might just find your senses heightened to a new and exciting level.
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