First you need to seriously and willingly do this. You have to really want to do this or you will not succeed.

We all slip up once in a while and talk about others behind their backs; however, we all know that this is not right. If you’re a Muslim or affiliated with any other religion, then you would know that backbiting is a sin, if you’re not a Muslim and don’t follow any religion, then you would at least consider the moral part of it. Backbiting is morally wrong and hurts many people’s feelings. Along with that, it breaks up friendships and even families.

So here are some tips to help you stop this behavior or at least lessen it until you can stop it completely. These tips have helped me a great deal and I hope they can help you too.

After you decide that you will take it seriously, you have to get someone else to help you. Having someone help you encourages you to keep going and it will give you more motivation. Once you have someone to help you, this is what you will do:

You will start paying very, very close attention to what you say. You will watch every word that comes out of your mouth. This is very important, so pay close attention to what you say.

For the first day of this, you will count at least ten times that you slip and talk about someone. For every ten times you slip you will give the person helping you a dollar. You will keep doing this for at least a week. Then once you have gotten used to watching what you say, you will bring the number of slips permitted to five. Then down and down until you’re not allowed to slip anymore without paying a dollar each time.

The person who you give the money to, who should be a trustworthy person should collect it and then give it to a needy person. This way you are benefiting yourself by learning a lesson to stop backbiting and benefiting someone else with the money you give up for slipping.

So hopefully, when you see your money going and going, you will start realizing that backbiting is something that needs to stop. The money is going somewhere good, but this will definitely teach you to cut the backbiting.

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