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There is all manner of advice floating around out there
guiding parents on how to talk to their teen or tween. However, the best time to start connecting
with your child is from the very start, as early as conception!
While in the womb the fetus is bathed in the heart field of
her mother, she hears her parent’s voices and is impressed with the emotions
that surround her mother. At birth, the
baby is generally fussed over, loved and especially with a first child a great
deal of one on one interaction takes place.
From there the child grows and depending on the parents, the
family size, the schedules kept and the how the household is structured (i.e.:
one or both parents work outside the home,) there will be only so much time for
one on one interaction with any one child.
Sadly, this is where a lot of kids fall through the
crack. In our busy, busy lives, we don’t
always schedule in quality bonding time with our children. We fill their days with school and enrichment
programs, sports, and dance, but this is time that is shared with others and
not just the family or parents. We don’t touch them in loving ways as often as
we should. Touch is also very important.
Lots of hugs and kisses, touches on the hand, head, all are messages of
love that will uplift and bond you and your child.
Children, if given the choice, would rather spend dedicated
time with at least one parent on a regular basis. It gives them the sense of being acknowledged
and seen as an individual. It is during this time that both parent and child
can relax and just BE with each other.
When you’re relaxed, your child relaxes, he or she is more likely to
confide in you. An intimacy occurs that,
if nurtured, will carry into your child’s chaotic teenage years.
And being able to talk to your teen will go much smoother
when you’ve laid the groundwork all these previous years.
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