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The timeless debate over whether or not to circumcise has been overshadowed by an often bitter feud. It often hides behind acid and venomous tones delivered, for and against, by what are supposed to be loving and nurturing mothers. It has become a heated arena where mothers spit accusing words of abuse and neglect toward other mothers, who are equally as cruel when they deliver their defense and accusations of abuse and neglect. What is wrong with this picture? I think the answer to this debate can be found right above in the title with one simple word "choice".
Why has it become so angry and fierce to battle each other for the title of "This Mom Knows Better", when it is equally assumable that all mothers weighing in on the debate love their children, and for whatever reason they have weighed upon to arrive at their decision, their choice, they did so out of the want to do what is right in their eyes for their child. For as many mothers that point out their favorite medical proponents to argue the bad in circumcision, there is an equaling amount of credible medical proponents to offer qualified information that circumcision is a good choice. So, why can't loving mothers make their educated decisions and not try to force feed good and bad to each other?
Personally, for those mothers that are so passionately against circumcision, how do you know that it was a bad choice? Have any grown males come to you personally and said, "I cannot believe my mom put me through circumcision?" And, for those mothers equally passionate for their right to choose circumcision for their sons, how do you know that not circumcising is not a good choice? Have any of you been approached by grown males that have personally told you, "I cannot believe my mother did not have me circumcised?"
You see, it truly is about personally choice. Sure, we can all agree that if the unfortunate circumstance occurs and an older boy or man has to wind up having a circumcision when they are older, it can be harsh, painful and not something any male would like to go through. But, if that happens, let them take that up with their mothers, and just allow all mothers to choose what they feel is the best choice for them and their baby boys and let each concentrate on worrying about raising well adjusted boys into well adjusted men. I think mothers can all agree that the "penis" is the least thing we have to worry about when dealing with parenting; well, at least until they are teens anyway.
Is parenting not hard enough that we have to interject all these other factors into trying to label what makes a better mother, a better parent? It would, however, be interesting to see a poll of grown men weighing in letting to let mothers know which they would have rather had their own mother's choose. I think we might find a comfortable split that would lead us right back to the word "choice".
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